So this year Diva Girl has her first locker. Silly me…I thought this was exciting. She, on the other hand, was horrified. The thought of having to memorize a lock combo was not her idea of fun. My solution was to take her with me so she could choose her own lock. There’s definitely way more selection than when I was a kid. Then I told her to practice her combo over the weekend until she felt comfortable. But she was still a bit nervous because 2 kids at school had already forgotten their combos on the 1st day. So she practiced diligently until she had the combo memorized. To be safe we made a copy and put it in Baby Girl’s backpack. She is not yet part of the elite locker crowd.
Diva Girl had a great day, the lock situation was handled. She was so happy when she came home.
Diva: “Mom I did it! I remembered my combination today.”
Me: “That’s great!”
Diva: “I had no problems. Look!” she was very proud and takes the lock out of her bag to show me.
Me: “Uh…you’re supposed to leave the lock at school!”
I’m still laughing…
Woo hoo! Its finally here! They’re back at school for another year.
Can someone tell me where the nearest group of parents are currently celebrating?
So every year like most parents, I am in Back to School mode. Which means shopping…which means new clothes, new shoes, and new school supplies. Backpacks, lunch bags, pencils, pens and on and on.
This year I asked the girls to take inventory of their supplies so that I could avoid what usually happens…duplication of stuff. Of course, after a week of asking, I did it myself. You know what I discovered?
These kids don’t need anything!
Diva Girl is going into grade 6 so I may need to get her a decent calculator and some mechanical pencils. Maybe…
But after organizing all their erasers, sharpeners, pencil crayons, etc into individual Ziploc bags and threatening a life without electronic devices if they fail to maintain order, I’ve decided that I’m not buying anything. Not even new backpacks. The ones from last year are perfectly fine (I washed them). Some of you may be thinking “big deal” but for someone like me and my DH, this is a revolution! We love to shop. Mind you, we still got them new clothes and sneakers.
We’re not monsters.
I know I can’t be the only one to sometimes feel like I’m the rope in a game of tug of war; the cheese in the middle of a sandwich or…I don’t know…someone stuck in the middle of EVERY conflict that happens in our home ALL THE TIME.
Fights between the kids end in “MOMMY!”
Arguments between Daddy and the girls become “Did you see what your daughter did?” and “MOMMY!”
Conflicts between grandparents and the kids…”Your child doesn’t listen!” and “MOMMY!”
Many times before anyone would think to ask how you’re doing.
I’m thinking the person that invented the concept of cloning felt sorry for their mother.
This September brings a new school year at a new school for both the girls. We’ve moved out of the area that they grew up in and I’m nervous. Is that weird? I’m an introvert by nature and new situations and new places was always a struggle for me growing up. I still have issues in large groups of people that I don’t know. I’ve only gotten better at disguising my discomfort…most of the time. So I worry about the girls and how they will adapt. I have an amazing amount of guilt. I’m slightly depressed by the fact that they will no longer be attending a school that offers French immersion…for numerous reasons. I am still trying to deal with that disappointment. But my biggest concerns are around how they will adapt to the new school. Baby girl is very shy and I wonder if making new friends will cause her a lot of distress. She’s very sensitive…like seriously sensitive. Although Diva girl can be shy, she is also better at being nonchalant which actually attracts people to her quite easily. I’m pretty sure she’s not aware of that superpower right now.
So I’ve made it my goal these past few weeks to talk to them about peer pressure, being the new kid, making friends and bullying. I’m hoping this will at least help to prepare them for any new and unexpected situations they may find themselves in. I try to remember what it felt like for me as a kid and use those experiences to provide them with some insight. I’m not sure they’re paying attention, but I’m hoping something will kick in at the right time.
But then again, they may just surprise me. I’m the one that’s not good with change. Something I’ve come to terms with as I’ve gotten older. But the girls are pretty resilient.
Maybe I’m the one that’s going to need someone to hold my hand on that first day of school.
Today on my lunch break I overheard two colleagues talking. One was bemoaning the fact that his daughter just got her period. “It’s all over,” he said. The woman with him was of no help because she kept saying stuff like “…but I just saw her the other day! She’s still so little!” Ugh! The poor guy. Apparently, this is his youngest and now she’s “no longer a baby”. As a mom, sometimes I forget how much these changes affect the dads too. I could tell this man was so worried about his daughter. It was kind of cute.
Until I remembered that I also have two daughters that are about to embark on these very same changes.
NOT CUTE AT ALL.
Please be advised that in addition to the responsibilities you have to your children, you will also be required to take care of yourself. Although this concept may be foreign to some of you, we feel that it is a necessary step in ensuring that you are fit to continue to care for your loved ones (which may include a spouse and/or aging parents). As such, we have compiled a list of steps that you will be required to take on a consistent basis. The following list will include some general actions but can be expanded where appropriate to meet your needs.
Please see below:
- Take your vitamins – always consult your doctor or pharmacist for the appropriate advice based on your personal needs
- Eat your fruits and veggies – you know they’re good for you which is why you argue, beg or bribe your kids to eat them.
- Attend your yearly check-ups (if you live in an area where physicals are no longer yearly, make sure you follow up with your doctor regarding any new aches/pains or existing conditions).
- Exercise – walk, run, stretch…just do something every day so you have the energy to enjoy your family and your life for as long as possible
- Spiritual Nourishment – this is important for me as my faith gives me comfort when I’m feeling low; interpret as you see fit…prayer, meditation, etc
- Body maintenance – do your nails, get your eyebrows done, shave/wax your legs, give your hair that treatment you’ve been thinking about for the last month or get a haircut/style. Getting rid of the unsightly hairs in unwanted places as well as split ends can be refreshing. It’s amazing what a little maintenance can do for your peace of mind.
- Establish your ‘me time’ – you need it no matter how selfish it may sound. You need to decompress every so often so that you are able to interact with your family in a healthy way. Pick the best thing for you for that moment in time, like shopping (responsibly of course) or reading at the library or local coffee shop.
- Date Night – this can be with a spouse or significant other, or it can be with friends. Try to schedule something on a regular (or semi-regular) basis. Every Friday or Saturday night may not be reasonable, but maybe once a month or every other month where you make the commitment to get together for a ‘kid-free’ night. Plan ahead so that you hopefully don’t have to cancel at the last minute. Make sure ‘date night’ is something you both (or all) are interested in. If you’re tired of the dinner and a movie routine, try something new like dancing, art classes, wine tasting, etc.
These are just a few suggestions. Please feel free to add or revise as you see fit. These recommendations are not based on a professional opinion so please use your discretion. We hope you will take care of yourself as well as your family; you are as important to them as they are to you.
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