supermomdoesntlivehere

Because motherhood will never be a perfect science

THAT’S NOT NICE!

 

What do you do when your child is under attack by another child?

Okay, so attack is a strong word…

But really, when you are teaching your child to respect others and follow the rules and then they come home to tell you that there is a child that picks on them or hits them or is mean to them on almost a daily or weekly basis….WHAT DO YOU DO?

When I was a kid, the choices were simple. My mother would be in the principal’s office before the morning bell rang the very next day. The principal would get an earful about not protecting her daughter, and the teacher would be drilled to the ‘Nth’ degree as to why she would let something like that happen. Then I would be required to take her down the hall or into the playground to show her the culprit and she would give them THE LOOK and that was the extra strength edition that meant “You crossed the line, kid!”

Oh yeah….my mom was that mom!

Diva girl has had run-ins with other kids since her days in daycare which is normal of course, as these little ones start to learn about respecting personal space, sharing and ‘using their words’ to express their feelings. Every incident is upsetting to her and always tugs at my heart. Now that she’s older and in school, it makes me angry and concerned when I hear that another child has hit her or bothered her in some way. Her father and I have both talked to her about choosing kids who play nicely as her friends and speaking up for herself and telling the teacher when she is feeling ‘bullied’.

The thing with my kid is….everyone wants to be her friend!

The Good, the Bad and the Bully!!!!!  (Thought I was gonna say something else, huh?)

Diva girl has always been a part of the group. Her group has always consisted of mostly boys and maybe one or two other girls. But she has always played hard and fast in the playground. The running joke in her daycare was that she needed her own incident report journal because there was never a week (and sometimes day) where myself or her father didn’t have to initial the page that detailed the accident she had while she was outside. When I’d ask her what happened, it usually started out with “I was running and…”

So she’s always played with lots of boys and they love playing with her because she can run as fast as they can and she is not afraid to climb, jump or roll as high or hard.

Sigh…doesn’t help the laundry situation, let me tell ya!

But being part of this group also leaves her a target to some aggressive behaviour and tough as she may sound, she is a very kind person and she’s not a fighter…AT ALL.  She can talk back like nobody’s business and she will not back down from an argument, but she also has not grasped the concept of defending herself from kids that forget to ‘keep their hands to themselves’. In daycare and school she has been taught to work through conflict with words and peaceful alternatives. Okay, I get that…and as her parents, we have always taught her to respect others.

But I’m her mom and when some kid walks up to her and punches her in the stomach or tries to bite  her….????

Ummm…..a hug or a high five isn’t really what’s crossed my mind.

Know what I mean?

 

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THE TOOTH IS OUT!

Yes, the tooth is out! Diva girl has lost her first tooth at the age of 5 and her adult tooth is already making a strong appearance. Geez, that girl moves fast! It was pretty much hanging by a thread last night and she was afraid she would swallow it. Luckily it stayed in place overnight, because as much as I love my daughter I was not going to extract that thing from anything coming out the other end the following day…and you know what I mean! She was so excited, I decided to write the teacher a note and put a little Ziploc bag in her backpack to save it if it fell out at school.

That’s exactly what happened! Did I call that or what? She was eating her pita and she spit it out thinking it was “a dry piece of cheese” (Hello? Like I would give her dried up cheese???) . She didn’t even notice it was her tooth until she started feeling for it with her tongue. Don’t you remember doing that as a kid when your baby teeth were falling out? You tried to push it as far as you could. It became your favourite pastime until the tooth finally fell out. Anyway, her teacher put it in the bag for her so she could bring it home. After bath time she put it under her pillow and she is now fast asleep waiting for the Tooth Fairy. She didn’t even want to lie on the pillow because she thought she would crush it and then the Tooth Fairy wouldn’t find it. She did this thing where her head was on her hands and her bum was in the air until I explained (without laughing…almost) that the Tooth Fairy could get under the pillow and find her tooth no matter what.

I love this stuff!

Well, she will be very excited when she wakes up tomorrow. A nice chunk of change and a note from the Tooth Fairy will make her Friday. My mother made sure to tell me that a quarter just won’t cut it these days. What the heck? This is only tooth number one! I’m gonna need a 2nd job after they’re all out. Oh well, that’s life.

Signed

The Tooth Fairy (aka No Super Mom)

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SIGH…THIS MOM THING AGAIN

I am proud to say that I did NOT meet Diva girl at school today! Yay me!

I did a drive by instead!

Listen, I never said I was perfect!

I was happy to see her safe and sound standing beside a teacher waiting to go inside. So I just kept on driving.

All was good in my world…until she came home and told me that one of the kids on the bus hit her! GRRR!

Apparently when she was standing with the teacher it was because she had been crying and just finished telling her what happened. In my efforts to be discreet, I didn’t see her tears.

How could I not have seen them? I feel like the worst mom in the world right now.

But tomorrow I will be speaking with the bus driver and the school.

Unhappy mom signing off.

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TIME FOR SCHOOL…CONT’D…AGAIN!

So the second day of school wasn’t that great. There was complete chaos outside and when I got to the school (yes…I met her at school a second time!), Diva girl was standing around by herself without any acknowledgment from any of the teachers. Her teacher was nowhere to be found.

Now aren’t you glad I went to the school?

Believe me, I was not impressed. When I think of the fact that no one really even knew that my child was there, all the “what ifs” come rushing back. When her teacher finally decided to grace us with her presence, it was to respond to my concerns in a manner that was so condescending….

I’m gonna stop there, because now I’m getting worked up all over again.

But just so you know, today was different and very organized and I am somewhat comforted by the turnaround.

HOWEVER…I’m still miffed at the attitude of her teacher, especially when I found out after school that Diva girl was sent to TIME OUT on her 2nd day for talking too loudly in class.

I SAID… ON HER SECOND DAY!

Seriously? Who does that??? Especially to a girl who has never had a ‘time out’ in daycare or in JK. What happened to giving warnings? What happened to allowances for the first few days as the children got used to new teachers with new rules?

Diva girl told me that she started crying when she was sent to her time out. This doesn’t surprise me since she’s such a people pleaser. To her, to be seen as the ‘bad kid’ would have been devastating.

Okay, I’m mad all over again…

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